Female Health

Finding yourself after having a baby

On July 28, 2021 by margheviviani

Honestly, I would never imagine this topic. My life as a mother would be easier if somebody told me those very easy tips for fining myself after having a baby. As I was doing everything the opposite way and becoming less happy.

It took me a while to understand that exist not only my daughter and all my duties, but also me. That I should never forget about myself first. And one of my first duties as a mother and a wife is to be happy, light and restored. Even that is not easy sometimes, and I just wanna do as maximum is possible for my family until there is a moment when I can’t do it anymore. And is wrong.

I wrote down those tips also for me, to don’t forget 🙂

1. Ask for help

Ask your friends, grandparents, nanny, or daycare. Depends on the situation you have. But don is a shame to ask for help. Since ancient times women was helping other women. Just families and communities before were much bigger. But is in our feminine blood to help each other, especially to new mothers. Thins also about a babysitter or a daycare. I tried many nannies, but It was simply not my option. When my daughter turned 9 months old she starts going to a daycare in Bali. Find what works better for YOU and don’t compare yourself with others.

2. Exercise

To keep your mind fresh try to train every day. It can be yoga, running, bicycle, swimming. When your baby is sleeping, or even together. It is important to start slowly and small. No need to run a marathon in your unique free hour. Is enough 15-20 minutes a day, or few times a day.

3. Go for a date with yourself 

Leave your baby with one of the options above and instead of cleaning the house just dress nicely and go out. Take a cup of coffee in the place you like, take a walk with the earphones listening to your favorite music, meet your friends or go shopping. Even if you don’t need to buy anything just go to see and try something new.

4. Be beautiful even at home 

Don’t wait when you will be invited to a super event. Dress for the event at home. Start using accessories and nice dresses, do a bit of make-up and fix p your hair. When the baby arrives we spend a lot of time at home, and better to feel ourselves beautiful also at home. It will cheer you up and your partner will be way happier to see you perfect at home. In India, women dress their best dresses at home and I took it as a tip.

5. Have time alone with your partner

Important not to forget about each other. After all, you two happened first, and the baby is a product of the love of two. It can be a tuff moment for both because all the attention is now around a little one. But try to take care of each other, stay together when is possible.

6. Do one new thing everyday 

Read a new book, draw, go to a new place, or use a new road, or simply change a nail polish color. One new small thing a day will change a feeling of monotony.

7. Start working or find your hobby

If you think that is time to go out of the house, a good solution is to find a part-time job or a hobby. But remember, it is just something that makes you more inspired and alive, not more overwhelming. Maybe you would like to come back to your old job or to start something completely new. Just do it! You will find a way to find a time for it, only a few hours a day, or a week.

If the mother is happy then everyone around is happy, right?

Check out also my post about Water Birth.

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Take care dear!

Yours Marghe

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